I will not give out my daughter in marriage to an idiot
There is a disturbing trend on how boys are raised in our parenting system, where they are bailed out of responsibility because they have been taught that they only need to work hard and pay bills.
And then we raise girls to bail out boys all their lives.
You see a boy who hasn’t being held accountable for anything in life turn out to be a nuisance and boom when it’s time for responsibility we are looking for a girl who will help him in form of a form of a wife.
This is why a parent gladly told me that the solution to her son's irresponsibility is to just get a good girl for him and that marriage will automatically cure his irresponsibility.
We raise responsible girls and offer them to "idiots" whom they continue to bail out the rest of their lives. It starts with how we are raising boys.
You tell your son to watch TV while your daughter is slaving with chores at home and say because he is a boy.
Which is why girls are still bailing out their brothers today. Girls are still bailing out their husbands today, because that’s how we are raising them.
I have said this over and again, my daughter won’t marry an idiot in the name of marriage makes a woman, she will rather remain single.
Truth is, we are all prone to bailing out system of parenting; It’s only knowledge and intentionality that can help you not to bail out your child especially as a mother. There is a natural tendency of mothers to bail out their sons because mothers are natural nurturers.
This morning at the Inner Circle program Exclusive session, I shared with parents why the bail out system makes a mess of manhood and how we must raise sons we are not bailing out.
We shared some strategies and practical ways to avoid the bail out system of parenting and here was part of what we shared.
Give them responsibility early
Help them identify a life champion
Allow them do dangerous things carefully
Hold your children accountable because freedom is an illusion.
This session was such a time for parents because I can assure that many parents saw themselves in this system. I am sure you might read this and think you aren’t on this table but trust me, we all are but the difference is that some of us know when it comes and how to ensure we don’t fall into the trap.
Look around you, the bail out system of parenting is a real issue for Boys who are now men.
Are you bailing out your son? Or sometimes even your husband?
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